Category Archives: Relationship Management

Dancing with a Bear

Stepping on Toes The giant man rose to his feet displaying his 6’8”, 400-pound frame, reached for his coat as if ready to walk out, and asked me “Do you want to know what I think of that?” We had … Continue reading

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The Love in Leadership

Among the first and worst leadership advice I ever received was:

“When you are promoted into leadership, your relationship changes: you can no longer be friends with your team (your followers.) You will have to keep your distance so you can make good decisions.”

In almost the same breath new leaders are counseled on the importance of building trusting relationships with their followers. The message is that people will not follow you unless they trust you. They won’t take risks, they won’t defer their own judgment to yours, and they won’t allow you to influence them. All of this is true. So, what then is the basis of that trust?
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Do Frank Conversations Hurt Your Career?

It seems to me that entering frank conversations with peers, employees, and superiors can hurt your career. That’s too bad because honest frank conversations are more than important for success; they are required. The gate to success is marked “Courage to Deal with Reality Required; No Ostriches Allowed.” Continue reading

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Handle the Truth

…teams as well as couples have a list of undiscussables, issues they avoid broaching at all costs in order to preserve a modicum of peace, to preserve the relationship. In reality, the relationship steadily deteriorates for lack of the very conversation they so carefully avoid. It’s difficult to raise the level if the slide has lasted over a period of years, and that is what keeps many of us stuck. —- Susan Scott, in Fierce Conversations

As long as I can remember, I have always been struck by the lack of honesty in conversations. It seems futile to me.
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What Makes 9.53 in 10 Humans Tick: Passion

Do what you love and the money will follow! It isn’t work when you love what you are doing! While these words of advice are a bit polyanna, they contain a hardcore truth. People who work in areas of strength and passion thrive. Continue reading

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